How to Overcome Regret and Guilt in Life

Feeling the regret of the fine opportunities that you’ve missed out, not to forget the wasted time or loving someone doesn’t appreciate all the sacrifices, effort, and pain you’ve been through just to make him/her deeply happy.

regret can be sometimes like a bubble that keeps growing and growing until you can’t handle it anymore, in this post I’m going to show how to let go of guilt and regret in marriage, love and over a missed opportunity to never regret a day in your life.

“My regret becomes an April violet, and buds and blossoms like the rest.”

Baron Alfred Tennyson: In Memoriam A.H.H..

“Were it not better to forget Than but remember and regret?”

Letitia Landon: “Despondency”

“Dear as remembered kisses after death; and sweet as those by hapless fancy feigned on lips that are for others: deep as love, Deep as first love; deep as first love, and wild with all regret; O Death in Life, the days that are no more.”

Alfred Tennyson: “the princess IV”

“I have no regrets. I wouldn’t have lived my life I did if I was going to worry about what people were going to say.”

Ingrid Bergman:”Attrib”

“Ah, my beloved, fill the cup that clears to-day of past regrets and future fear, to-morrow! __ why, to-morrow I maybe myself with yesterday’s seven thousand year”

Edward Fitzgerald: the Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam XX

“The follies which a man regrets most in his life are those which he didn’t commit when he had the opportunity“

Helen Rowland: “reflections of a bachelor girl”

It seems to me that a male or a female’s experiences in early and sometimes even in later life are not even; owing to lack of restraint when the mind is green and the will not utterly reigned yet. The young people of both sexes are tabula, Rosa!

It’s not like life as we know it that a young male or female is born with a mature mind and steely will whose lives go on without foibles or setbacks. No, I think human life is not like that.

In the quotations above it’s clear that experimenting and groping for wisdom are the real way one lives his life. Some experiences are positive whilst others are problematic, they are not even! Experimenting with the raw materials of life is a must. Like the beginner artist with the materials of his art.

Some people have a very unwholesome experience and despite this, they go on with it become they have a different personal philosophy of right & wrong:

“If loving you is wrong

I don’t want to right”

And others think that life is a moving table that it’s foolish to make social norms deprive you of tasting some of it delicious experiences:-

“I have no regrets. I wouldn’t have lived my life I did if I was going to worry about what people were going to say.”

The aesthetics of living a colorful and satisfying life permits you to add multi-colored layers of experiences so that some are flatteringly applauded by others.

In our modern societies, there are many philosophies of art, politics, morality, and sexual orientation. Social life becomes a limitless space peopled by limitless communities who evaluate human life from different angles and visions. What is wrong for a certain community of interests is right for another and vice versa.

So birds of a feather flock together, even so, there is a movement to & from these communities of interests:-

“you acted in certain way

Yesterday because you were

a disciple of a certain community

of interests. Today you reneged and beginning to settle your accounts:

this opens the door

for regret which is called

Middle-age crisis”

And as life in a human society is so complex and complicated some flee to poetry, art, music, religion and drink to mitigate the collision:-

Oh, my beloved fill the cup that clears to-day of past regrets and future fears. So, my dear reader everybody they try to achieve the “Equilibrium price” as the economists say; equilibrium at which life is at equilibrium: no loss, nor debt to everyone, with the feeling that you have paid all your dues.

Knowing that everything in life has its price, which give you a comfortable manly or womanly feeling of having paid the equitable price no more nor less

But some people are unlucky for having paid a high price for some small experience or bounty owing to their folly or lack of tact; they feel bitter for the rest of their lives.

The feeling of regret originates from the “lost opportunity” and the feeling of guilt comes from the “high price” everybody have those feelings deep down their souls; the market for the symbolic and material and human commodities offers what life is all about:

A house, a car, social status, and love and respect, etc. and there are many barriers that keeps you away from them: propriety-lack of money-in experience, being young or overage-wavering heart, etc. the two sometiments of this essay regret and guilt are the most prevalent amongst human beings and they are a sign of the ”discontents of civilizations” like Freud has said.

These are some songs that help to throw some lights on the different interest community in this essay:-

So cheer up!

They are the signs of being human.

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