How to manage your emotions
“Poetry is not a turning loose of emotion, but an escape from emotion; it is not the expression of personality, but an escape from personality.”
Thomas. S. Elliott: “Tradition and the individual talent”.
“The young Cambridge group, the group that stood for “freedom” and flannel trousers and flannel shirts open at the neck, and a well-bred sort of emotional anarchy, and an ultra-sensitive sort of manner.”
D. H. Lawrence: “Lady Chatterley’s Lover”ch1.
one may not regard the world as a sort of metaphysical brothel of emotions.”
Arthur Koestler: “Darkness at moon, the second hearing”
“Poor Faulkner. Does he really think big emotions comes from big words? He thinks I don’t know the ten-dollar words. I know them all right. But there are older and simpler and better words, and those are the one I use”
“She ran the whole gamut of the emotions from A to B”
The classical concepts of morality affirm deference, mental control and more show of tranquility and lesser show of emotions.
Showing emotions in public was seemed outrageous and disgraceful. Emotional bursts were quite acceptable in private, in the privacy of one’s room.
The classical societies were built around a sharp division of the private and the public spheres; the parliament, the courts, the markets, the streets were places for people to practice emotional control; and the evitable show of some strong feelings were sometimes accepted from someone who just couldn’t take any more.to highlight this fact, Marvin Gaye sr. in court after the judge expressed his grief at losing an artist who gave his society a great artistic contribution, and all the people expected even more uplifting art, but alas! He was cut down green.
Marvin Sr. said: yes I know, and I don’t know what forced me to do what I did (his face became tense and his lips twitched) but to the last day of my life this inconsolable regret and pain will accompany me, till the day I die!
The judge then said: the court will hand down no further verdict and will be satisfied with the pangs of your conscience.
You can go!
The acquitted man was not aware of what to make of this in legal terms so;
he said: you mean I can go?!
The judge reiterated:
yes, you can go, you are free.
The show of emotions in the courts sometimes tipped the scales of justice in favor of the party who showed them.
In parliaments, some show of national, sincere emotions at times of national crisis has sometimes influenced the decision-makers to have these outbursts of sincere emotions in consideration.
In classical Rome the stoic philosophy has it that man should:
“Show gaiety at times of crisis and show emotional control at times of merry-making”
It is all an issue of cultural dynamics: the heavy, the light –the quick – the slow, etc.
No culture could forgo these cultural dynamics qualities. In our modern culture there is a tendency to downgrade those barriers and hierarchies both horizontally in disregarding the public/private polarities as well as vertically in dismantling the age and authority privileges.
This is a question of cultural and social changes; nobody can stop them, but the types of social architecture give the dwellers in them a relative comfort and meaning of life.
When you feel driven to express strong emotions in public try to tell yourself that this is neither the place nor the occasion to so express them
And as Cardinal de Richelieu had said:
“Secrecy is the first essential in affairs of the state.”
“It is a secret in the oxford sense:
you may tell it to only one person at a time.”
And S. Freud:
“the voice of the intellect is a soft one, but it does not rest till it has gained a hearing”
Of course, everyone knows the classical dichotomy between Reason/Emotion which was one of the greatest themes of classical tragedies; of course, no doubt at all one should be reasonable, coherent in expression and behavior, reliable and strong, consistent and non-changeable with the wind of passions.
As you know, dear reader of my blog: the essence of rationality, so far, is the quality of predictability, and not to be like a Dutch windmill!