what to do and say to your boyfriend, husband, or partner when you find out he is cheating on you and how to treat him, should you stay or go.
“it is necessary to the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself.
Infidelity does not consist in believing or in disbelieving it consist in professing to believe what one doses not believe. “
Thomas Paine: “The Age of Reason” Pt. I.(Get The Book)
“When the Himalayan peasant meets the he-bear in his pride, he shouts to scare the monster.
But the she-bear thus accosted rends the peasant tooth and nail for the female of the species is more deadly than the male.”
Rudyard J. Kipling: “The Female Of The Species”
“the fundamental fault of female character is that it has no sense of justice.”
Arthur Schopenhauer: “Gedanken Über Vielerler GegenstandeS XXX” “Thought Salbout all kinds of subjects”
“Carroll’s ego, a humpty dumpty (egg),was in perpetual peril of falling, never to be put together again…… his defensive hypersensitivity to a little girl’s curiosity is a reflection of a boy too long exposed to feminine eyes.”
Lewis Carroll: “Judith Blooming Date Aspects of Alice.”
Now, without knowing the real nature of love so many pairs seem to cause too strong a love to go wrong.
Every young male or female need to base his sentimental education on very firm basis: this basis is found in civilized societies in economics, morality, poetry.
It is simply that in nature the choices of mating are very flexible:
every male will do.
Every female will do.
But in humans, the lover(both sexes) deems that the beloved is UNIQUE!.
Nobody talks or walks like him/her, nobody likes him/her she/he’s the one&only;
one man equals all-male humanity the one woman weighs more than all other women, and he has chosen you for your singular personality, and you have chosen him for his perfection(of course nobody is perfect: but lover’s eyes can never see).
One man has rigid demand for one woman.
One woman has the need for the right man.
The right man means: he’s not like the others.
Every lover should bear in mind that the other is unique.
And he/she should believe in him/her as the right choice.
One of my flamed at the university said:
“you made all men distasteful for me!”
One of the benefits of this clear-eyed infatuation is that the quest of the heart, the urge to find the right partner is put at rest.
The roaming eyes would stop their stolen gaze; the mind rests satisfied: and this is the psychic and emotional ground for fidelity and constancy in love.
“Strangers in the night exchanging glances strange stranger in the night
whatever the chanced
of me loving you.”
Thus you believe in her, and she believes in you so old Thomas Pain is right when he stresses that:
“infidelity does not consist in believing, or disbelieving, It consists in professing to believe what one does not believe.”
If your mate(flew)a way that simply means that he/she is not the one intended by cupid to be your other half.
Then nobody can blame you/her if you come to the end of the line empty-handed, and remember there’s always one other chance to find the love that will save the day.
And like what dear old Mr. Pain said:
“it is necessary to the happiness of man that: he be mentally faithful to himself”
What To Say When Someone Cheats On You
At the end you may say to the one who cheated on you:
“We came to the end of the line, through no fault either on my part or yours.
In fact we have never been intended for each other, in one word: we have never been true lovers.
So when you go away don’t look back.
Go down the street free from any obligations to me, nor do I have any obligations to you;it was just an infatuation on both sides. So, go your own way, and I go mine”